“Emotional abuse is elusive. Unlike physical abuse, the people doing it and receiving it may not even know it’s happening.
It can be more harmful than physical abuse because it can undermine what we think about ourselves. It can cripple all we are meant to be as we allow something untrue to define us. Emotional abuse can happen between parent and child, husband and wife, among relatives and between friends.
The abuser projects their words, attitudes or actions on an unsuspecting victim usually because they themselves have not dealt with childhood wounds that are now CAUSING THEM TO HARM OTHERS.”
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SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE TO HELP YOU RECOGNIZE IF ANY OF THESE SIGNS ARE PRESENT IN YOUR MARRIAGE, YOUR FAMILY (BETWEEN YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN) , AT WORK OR IN YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.
IDENTIFYING ABUSE IS THE FIRST STEP TO PUT A STOP TO IT.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE is extremely common in our society but at the same time, it is most likely overlooked because it doesn’t leave visible marks.
Abusers are skillful manipulators; they usually put on a façade in front of family and co-workers, even at their parishes or places of worships that is very difficult to unmask leaving abused spouses and children even more isolated and defenseless.
Abusers go as far as to gain their victims’ family trust in order to keep on their “good appearance” and maintain their victims (spouses and children) in perpetual disadvantage and shattered credibility not to mention isolation from what it should be the closest support network to the victims.
Abuse is all about control and power; the abuser usually has an upper hand over her victim because of a solid financial status, gainful employment and/ or good health ( disabled women and children are usually, the most common victims)
Continuous criticism, name calling, shaming, threats of harm to beloved relatives or themselves, violence outbursts like breaking objects in front of the victim to instill terror, insults, minimization of accomplishments, sudden mood swings, poor self-control, failure to acknowledge responsibility for own aggressive and violent behavior, and jealousy are all common signs of emotional and psychological abuse.
“CHILD ABUSE IN THE SOLE FORM OF EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL MALTREATMENT IS THE MOST DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY AND PREVENT”
In order for women to escape and break the cycle of abuse a solid support network must be established; relatives, friends, adept counselors in the field of family abuse must be engaged to to break the cycle and offer a secure escape route.
One caveat here; the courts, judicial system, attorneys and psychologists ARE VERY FREQUENTLY MANIPULATED BY THE ABUSER.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE DOES NOT LEAVE VISIBLE MARKS; ABUSERS ARE CONSUMMATED, CUNNING LIARS AND MANIPULATORS.
AS A VICTIM OF ABUSE YOU NEED TO CAREFULLY CHOOSE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING TO HELP YOU ESCAPE YOUR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.
DO NOT TRUST OR RELY ANY OUTSDE ENTITY THAT DOES NOT TAKE YOUR ABUSE CLAIMS SERIOUSLY.
RETAIN ATTORNEYS THAT YOU HAVE VERIFIED THAT HAVE VAST EXPERIENCE IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS; ANY FAMILY ATTORNEY WILL NOT BE UP TO THE TASK.
IF YOU CAN NOT AFFORD/RETAIN A SPECIALIZED, PRIVATE ATTORNEY CONSULT LEGAL AID SERVICES AVAILABLE NATIONWIDE
AT ALL TIMES KEEP IN MIND YOUR CHILDREN AND OWN SAFETY.