Why Does He DO That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
By Lundy Bancroft, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men
It is have been deemed the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. According to Jay Silverman, Ph.D. director Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
This high acclaimed book will teach you:
.The early warning signs
.Ten abusive personality types, including psychological, emotional and verbal abuse
.The role of drugs and alcohol
. What you can fix and what you can’t
. How to get out of a relationship safely
. A clear understanding about the extreme lengths abusive men will go to in order to keep you under his tight grip even after separation.
. Why children are abuser’s favorite weapons used against the wife that left them, yes, the children’s well being are not the abusers’ priority if they really want to hurt the mother and force her to come back.
.How the abusive man sow division in their families
.Interference with Parenting
.How children look at their abusive fathers and why they copy their father’s attitude against their mother
.The abuser’s tactics in custody disputes
This book is an invaluable tool for abused women who need to improve, survive or leave an abusive relationship.
Be certain to check all resources listed for abused women
If you find yourself in need to navigate the court system and you can afford to retain an attorney do your homework and search for the best qualified Family Law attorney specialized in Abused and Battered Women.
A good place to start is by placing a call to an Abused Women Shelter and ask for references.
If you cannot afford an attorney contact Legal Aid Services.
Abuse National Domestic Violence Hotline contact number
1 800 799 3224
Always be safe! If you know your spouse or partner monitors every one of your moves take precaution and ask a trusted relative or friend to place the call for you.
Abused women cannot escape their oppressors unless a strong, reliable support system is available to them.
Some resources for further reading
When love goes wrong: What to do when you can’t do anything right by Ann Jones
In love and danger: A teen’s guide to breaking free from abusive relationships
Divorce from Justice: The abuse of women and children by divorce lawyers and judges by Karen Winner
Safety planning with battered women by Jill Davies,Eleanor Lyon and Diane Monti- Catania